Remind yourself that you have a story you tell yourself about your life everyday when you wake up. You and only you are the author of this story. You have the power to change this story, hence changing the way that you relate to the world around you.
Understand that you have an ego. It is was makes you human. It is also what makes you suffer. The entire purpose of changing your story is to bring a state of presence consciousness and understand that you are safe in this present moment and connected to all, by one greater consciousness.
All experience that happens in front of you is happening for you, not to you. These experiences provide you with the opportunities or as I like to think about them, the teachable moments, to question your relationship with your thoughts and beliefs. Don’t be afraid of failure. The difference between a master and a student, is that master has failed more.
Trying to avoid experiences that make you uncomfortable only aids in the strength of the ego to justify your current position. No matter where you go, there you are. Use what is in front of you as the opportunity. Otherwise it will show back up with greater emphasis.
Don’t justify your story by sharing the drama with others. This enhances the ego’s stance and takes you further away from present consciousness. Talk only about yourself and your own experience when sharing. Leave out the detail of others.
Question your thoughts and beliefs with truth. Is what your thinking true? Is it absolutely true? Where might you begin fracturing your beliefs with possibility of another truth. A truth that is more in line with detachment. A truth that is more in line with a present state of consciousness.
Everything matters and nothing matters. Full detachment from all possibility and all expectation is present state consciousness. Build this by entertaining a state of contrary thinking. What is above is actually below. What you like, you actually do not like. What you do not like, is what you actually like. This will help you redefine what you believe to be true. This will help you understand that you create your own truth. You have power to create what you want.
Are you missing something in your life? Is there a state of absence? Work hard to point out to yourself, where in your life, what you want, is happening. Everything you want is in front of you, you just can not see it yet. It is there. Cultivate it, feed it, grow it. It will mature in front of your eyes, like a plant growing from a seed. Then detach from it.
Do not let anyone person, any one thing, any one belief, any one action define who you are. This is co-dependency. What you love the most, you need to move away from. This vulnerability will detach you from ego. You are defined by a present state of consciousness, not by ego. This consciousness is not unique to you. It is in all of us. We are all one from it. Treat others as you would treat yourself because we are all one.
What you see in others is what you see in yourself. Your ego wants to justify your position by justifying the behavior in others. This is a dangerous position. It spirals you away from a present state of consciousness. Be the change you want the world see. Emulate with your own behavior. Then detach from it. Focus on the now. Anxiety is in the future, depression is in the past. Peace and love are in the present.